Taming the Tongue

In the frustration of your caregiving have you lost control of your tongue?  Have you said things you wish you could take back?  Do you feel like you are nagging?  Have you called someone a “something” that attacks their dignity?  How can we be more mindful with our tongue?  What are your tongue issues?
Readings for today Matthew 5:22-23, “But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.  Again, anyone who says to his brother, ‘Raca’ is answerable to the Sanhedrin.  But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.”   Ephesians 4:29, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”  James 3:8-9, “But no man can tame the tongue.  It is restless evil, full of deadly poison.  With the tongue, we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness.  Out of the mouth come praise and cursing.  My brothers, this should not be.”  We do and say many things from habit.  The first step in changing a habit is mindfulness of our own actions and setting some ‘trigger’ to catch ourselves so we might respond differently.  Okay, scripture says, “No man can tame the tongue!”  Maybe we can bridle it a little.  What ‘trigger’ might you set to bridle your tongue?  Can you find a different way to express yourself that might be more like a blessing to your loved one?  I know caring for those who desire independence but need our love and care can bring conflict.  Try not to get drawn in to a battle.  Pray that God might show you a better way to communicate.  Your heart really wants to bless.  
Lord, help me with my tongue.  May the words of my mouth be a good reflection of the blessings I want for the one I love, especially in the difficult times.